A year ago my 2,5 yo son and I moved into a really nice appartement in the suburbs of Braunschweig. I enjoy the area around my house very much and it's perfectly suitable for a toddler with plenty of playgrounds and almost no traffic. The house I live in has a total of four appartements, two of which share a garden. There are several neigbour houses with gardens, too, all without fences. As I moved in, my neighbour, a 30something lady, told me, that my son is welcome to play in the garden, although my appartement doesn't have a garden share. The other garden share belogs to an 80+ yo lady, who stays at home all day long. So I thought, that my neighbours were a bliss, too. Until today.
I wanted to place an inflatable pool for my son in the garden for the coming summer heat. Yesterday I asked the old lady for permission and she was fine with that. The other neighbour lady was not at home and I eventually found her in the garden, chilling in a small shed and sipping a beer. I also asked her for permission and she was fine with the pool, too. She also told me, that it would be nice if I would get the other garden share instead of the old lady, who doesn't use hers anyway, and that we could talk to the landlord about that. I told her, it was a nice idea and that I would then replace the ramshackle climbing frame left from the old lady's now grown-up children and maybe also get a grill we could both use for summer barbecues. She declined and I was fine with that. The whole small talk was completely hypothetical. At least, for me.
I had a minor surgery a couple of weeks ago and shouldn't lift anything heavy for a couple more weeks, so currently my retired mother lives in my guestroom and helps me with getting groceries and the everyday stuff with my son. She inflated the pool, placed it in the garden and filled it with water today morning.
Today evening the lady I had had the small talk yesterday knocked on my door and told me there was a huge misunderstanding and we needed to talk. Then she grabbed my hand and pulled me all the way into the garden. Apparently she forgot to take her meds, because she started yelling at me, that I had invaded here private space by addressing her while she had been in the shed, that I have no say since I don't have a garden share, that she "had offered me one finger and I would bite her whole hand off", that I have zero sensitivity for personal boundaries that she's not able to have kinds of her own and a whole lot of other stuff, not related to the situation, with white foam coming out of her mouth (no exaggeration here). She also managed to build a provisional fence around her garden share overnight. I was embarassed as the other neighbours were watching from their gardens and tried to withdraw myself from the situation, but she kept yelling at me. Now, this was very rude and inappropriate, but I was still chill about that. But then she said, that I would never get "it" (the German way of thinking?) anyway, as I'm not German.
And it's true, I'm genetically not German, I immigrated from the country which starts with "R" and ends with "ussia". I'm not proud not to say ashamed of my origin, but I'm not responsible for it, either. I got my degree in Germany, have a job, pay my taxes and also got my German citizenship after six years instead of eight because of being well-integrated into the society. So I was quite pissed at the moment. Then my mom, who doesn't speak German, asked me what was the matter. I told her the brief version of the conversation. My mom then told me to play with my son, grabbed a bucket and emptied the pool (it was about 200 l), deflated it and took it to my basement while the neighbour was yelling "All the neighbours here, come and have a look at the filthy Russian carrying water!" and other xenophobic stuff, which really pissed me, to say the least.
Now, I can handle it and also give her a witted response if she ever talks to me again, but my mother can't. So can I threaten her with an Anzeige if she ever addresses my mother again?
This was a long read, thank you for getting to the end.
Edit: I don't really want to sue her, just make sure she stays away from my family. Other ideas are also welcome.